PerfectlyUnpolished

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  • Soup of the Day

    Sunday dinners used to include me standing in the kitchen preparing a meal so we all could sit down and enjoy each other company while eating something not from a to go container.

    The family sitting in the living room watching our faithful San Francisco 49’s take to the field hoping that this year would be our year. The smell of a hearty beefy veggie soup simmering on the stove, waiting for the bread to finish baking, and listening to the arguing about who is the “GOAT” for NFL Quarterbacks.

    Sundays now are much quieter with the kids gone off in the world adulting. The conversations have turned to who else is going to be injured this year instead of who’s the greatest.

    As I stand here in the kitchen making the same soup I’ve made a thousand times, beefy veggie, it makes me smile and remember that time goes by so fast and its so easy to forget the details. Yet a simple soup can bring back the “good ol days” of when my babies were little and complained there was too many veggies in it. I laugh now because looking down into my pot of mixed veggies and broth my kids might of been right….

    I hope you have a meal or soup that bring a smile to your face and a warm memory to your heart. Life is short, enjoy the soup!

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  • Halloween

    Halloween

    Happy Halloween to all the parents of adult children! The feeling is a bit off this year, we don’t have anyone in the house getting ready to go out and show off their most “awesomest” Batman costume. We will have our light on and enjoy all the newest goblin, witches, ghosts that come knocking on our door.

    I can say I’m slightly happy I will not be the one freezing my caboose off waiting to see the first snowflake fall. Standing on the corner shivering while my kids run circles around me waiting to cross the street.

    I see my neighbors sitting in their warm houses, sipping on a beverage, giving us the good ole smile and have fun comment. I am finally there! I get to be one of those neighbors, its bittersweet.

    I now feel like my kids did so many years ago trying to pick out their costumes but for me I’m trying to figure out what adult beverage I wish to sip on. Wave to all the parents at the driveway and wish them a safe evening. Some times life comes in a full circle.

    Have a safe evening everyone.

  • Real talk

    Real talk

    Real talk:

    Who else feels like being a parent of adult children was a book you never read?  Where was the information at your last doctor’s appointment, why were there no pamphlets in the waiting room to help pass the time? No education, no coaching, no information passed on to parents when your child graduates from High school or college.

    You now just must “figure it out” going from involved parent in the decisions that help mold your kid into the adult you’re now staring at. To sit on the sidelines trying not to overstep and insert yourself in their independence.  

    How do you just stop? I’m by no means a helicopter parent or a micromanager, however, over the years’ experience has been ingrained in my brain to redirect, correct, and protect when I see a pitfall.  Now I’m just supposed to watch the mess unfold and “let them figure it out”.

    If life has taught me anything it’s this, no matter how good your intentions are, sometimes things just go in a different direction. It’s how you handle the pivot is where the experience comes in.

    Just remember that you are not the direct reflection of your kids decisions.

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