Adulting is hard

Do you remember when you were a little kid and the adult in your life would take you to the park? Do remember running up to your favorite structure and just fall in line with whatever everyone else was doing? If the swings were full you would run over to the slide or the merry go round depending on the crowds and watch, play, or strike up a conversation with whomever was waiting their turn?

Why is this concept not used today as an adult?

Walk into an event, no agenda other than to accomplish why your there. Is it to have fun, change ideas, enjoy the company of others at the same event? Whatever your motive is on the way to the event the delivery system has changed.

At no point do I remember going to the park to start a fight, hurt someone’s feelings, or bully kids into thinking I’m KING of the Slide. My intentions were of good and self indulging happiness ( I get to play at the park, I don’t have to go home and do chores).

I’ve gone to several volunteer meetings lately to help our community only to be discouraged, angered, and simply repulsed by the behavior of others at the meetings. When did treating people poorly become acceptable in society(definitely a rhetorically question)? When did the greater good for a cause get lost and the narrative switch to personal agendas to make everyone in the room look incompetent?

Is Leadership to blame, is the “golden rule” no longer a rule but more of a suggestion, or have people lost the understanding that what you say, how you say it, and how you deliver it really does make a difference.

Can you imagine running up to the merry go round waiting your turn to jump on and a group of peers surround you and start degrading your choice of where you stood in the grass? When you go to answer the question your immediately cut off and told your stupid. Most of us would probably decide the merry go round can wait and choose to do something different as the actions, words, and tone had an affect on the experience at the park.

Is it possible to go back to when you were a child and hopefully life was decent and kids were accepting of all. It didn’t matter what church you went to on Sunday, or what shoes you had on, or how you got to the park. What mattered was you were a nice person and wanted to share the experience with others in a positive manner.

Adulting is hard… today is a great day to start making a positive difference.